Marriage
This is about marriage in the plan of God. St. Luke
20:27-38, “Then some of the Saducees, who deny that there is a
resurrection came to Him and asked Him. saying: Teacher, Moses wrote to
us that if a man's brother dies, having a wife and he dies without
children his brother should take his wife and raise up offspring for his
brother.
Now there were seven brothers. And the first took a wife and died
without children, and the
second took her a wife and died childless. then the third took her and
in like manner the seven
also and they left no children, and died. Last of all the woman died
also. Therefore, in the
resurrection, whose wife does she become? For all seven had her as wife.
Jesus answered and
said to them. The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. But
those who are counted
worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither
marry nor are given in
marriage; nor can they die anymore, for they are equal to the angels and
are sons of God being
sons of the resurrection. But even Moses showed in the burning bush
passage that the dead are
raised, whether called the Lord, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac,
and the God of Jacob.
for He is not the God of the dead but of the living for all live to Him.
Then some of the scribes
answered and said, teacher you have spoken well. but after that they
dared not question Him
anymore.
From this passage it is clear that marriage is an institution for
mankind on earth, not to be
carried through in Heaven. It is also clear that one of the major
reasons for the institution of
marriage is the perpetuation of the human race in a tight, ordered
family structure maintained by
Biblical precepts such as those described in this account of one aspect
of religious beliefs relating to marriage.
About the first marriage described in the Bible God said in Gen.
1:26-28, "Let us make man in
our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the
fish of the sea,
the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over
every creeping thing that
creeps on the earth. So God created man in His own image; in the image
of God He created
him, male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God
said to them, be
fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over
the fish of the sea, over
the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the
earth.
DIVORCE DISCOURAGED
Jesus discussed the importance of the continuation of marriage in
Matt. 19:3-9, “The
Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, Is it lawful
for a man to divorce his
wife for just any reason? And He answered and said to them, Have you not
read that He who made
them at the beginning made them male and female; and said for this
reason a man shall
leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall
become one flesh? So
then, they are no longer two but one flesh. therefore what God has
joined together let not man
separate. They said to Him, why then did Moses command to give a
certificate of divorce, and to
put her away? He said to them, Moses because of the hardness of your
hearts permitted you to
divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to
you, whoever divorces his
wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits
adultery, and whoever marries
her who is divorced commits adultery."
Paul expanded on the concept of marriage in I Cor. 7:1-16, Now
concerning the things
of which you wrote to me, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, because of
sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman
have her her own husband.
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise
also the wife to her
husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the
husband does. And
likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the
wife does. Do not
deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give
yourselves to fasting and
prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because
of your lack of self-
control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment, for I
wish that all men were
even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this
manner and another in
that. But I say to the unmarried and to the widows, It is good for them
if they remain even as I
am; but if they cannot exercise self control, let them marry. For it is
better to marry than to burn
with passion. Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord; a
wife is not to depart from
her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be
reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
But to the rest, I, not the Lord, say: if any
brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with
him, let him not divorce
her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is
willing to live with her, let
her not divorce him.. for the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the
wife, and the unbelieving
wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be
unclean, but now they are
holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a
sister is not under bondage in
such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O
wife, whether you will
save your husband? Or how do you know O husband, whether you will save
your wife?
The importance of Godly attitudes toward marriage is
underscored again in 1st Peter
3:1-7, “Wives likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even
if some do not believe they
without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they
observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your
adornment be merely outward, arranging the hair, wearing gold or putting
on fine apparel - rather, let it be the hidden person of the heart, with
the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very
precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the
holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves being submissive
to their own husbands. as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord,, whose
daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
Husbands, likewise, deal with them with understanding giving honor to
the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the
grace of God, that your prayer may not be hindered·”
AGREEMENT
Paul emphasizes the importance of selecting our companions
from those who share a
common belief in he Lord Jesus Christ so that our lives may be more
successful and satisfying.
2 Cor 6:14-18, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. for
what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? and what communion
has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? or
what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the
temple of God with idols? for you are the temple of the living God, as
God has said: I will dwell in them and walk among them. I will be their
God, and they shall be My people. therefore, come out from among them e
Fatheto you and you shall be son do not touch what is unclean. And I
will receive you. I will be a Father to you and you shall be My sons
and daughters, says the Lord almighty.”
The importance of associating with other believers earlier
was emphasized in Amos 3:3,
“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” This agreement
between two people is
particularly important in marriage where discord and disagreement are
especially destructive not
only to the loving relationship between husband and wife but also to
all of the members within the
family circle. It is impossible to develop trust and confidence in a
relationship that is not based
on commonly shared beliefs and goals. For that reason it is essential
that marriage not be based
solely on physical attraction between the man and woman or viewed as a
source of financial or
social security. Rather marriage should be based upon sound
philosophical and spiritual beliefs
held in common by both partners in the marital relationship.
To understand the role of marriage in our interrelationships it
is necessary to understand the inportance God places upon the
institution of marriage and of its symbolic significance as an example
of the relationship God has with the church which is composed of all
believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear that God
considers Himself married to those believers who trust in His name.
TWO AS ONE
Marriage is an example of the relationship Jesus Christ has with
His church, the born-again believers in Jesus Christ as described in
Ephesians 5:22-33, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.
for the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the
church; and He is the Savior of the body. therefore, just as the church
is subject to Christ, so let he wives be to their own husbands in
everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the
church, and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her
with the washing of water by the word. that He might present her to
Himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to
love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves
himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and
cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church, for we are members of
His body, of His flesh and of His bones. For this reason a man shall
leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall
become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning
Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular
so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects
her husband.”
Here Paul clearly describes the relationship between marriage and
Jesus' position as husband to the church on earth, which is the bride of
Christ. We the members of the church are described as being the very
body of Christ, flesh of His flesh and bone of His bone even as Eve was
described as being of the same flesh and bone as Adam in the first
marriage between man and woman, Gen. 2:21-24 “ And the Lord God caused a
deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept, and he took one of his ribs and
closed up the flesh in its place. then the rib which the Lord God had
taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man, and
Adam said: this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall
be called woman because she was taken out of man therefore a man shall
leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and they shall
become one flesh. and they were both naked the man arid his wife and
were not ashamed.”
This concept of being unashamed in marriage is touched on is Hebrews
13:4. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but
fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
COVENANT
The covenant of Marriage between Christ and His church was not a
new concept among the early Christians since this concept was emphasized
about Israel in Is 54:4-8, “Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed;
Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; for you will
forget the shame of your youth and will not remember the reproach of
your widowhood anymore. For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of
hosts is His name; and your redeemer is the Holy one of Israel; He is
called the God of the whole earth, for the Lord has called you like a
woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, like a youthful wife when you were
refused, says your God for a mere moment I have forsaken you, but with
great mercies I will gather you. With a little wrath I hid My face from
you for a moment; but with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you
says the Lord, your redeemer.”
Marriage is holy, a sacred institution before God as a symbol of
His relationship with us in which we are to have perfect trust and
confidence in Him for all of our needs. We are to have a relationship of
oneness with God our Father, for He dwells within us.
TEAMS
Another aspect of marriage between a man and woman who are in
philosophical and
spiritual agreement is the enhanced productivity of their lives as
described in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, “Two are better than one, because they
have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up
his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no
one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep
warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by
another, two can withstand him, and a threefold cord is not quickly
broken.”
Jesus also emphasized the usefulness of having another person in
association who agrees concerning the matter being considered. Jesus
stated in Matt.18:18-20, "Assuredly I say to you whatever you bind on
earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you loose on earth will be
loosed in heaven. Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth
concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father
in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I
am there in the midst of them."
During His time on earth Jesus sent out his disciples two by two
to minister in His name and this practice of sending out two for
ministry was followed during apostolic times such as when Peter and Paul
were on missions, taking another believer with them, such as Peter and
John at the gate beautiful, Paul and Silas, Paul and Barnabas, and Paul
and Luke on missionary journeys.
In Mark 6:7-13 Jesus sent out his disciples, "And He called the
twelve to Himself and began to send them out two by two, and gave them
power over unclean spirits. He commanded them to take nothing for the
journey except a staff, no bag, no bread, no copper in their money belts
but to wear sandals and not to put on two tunics. He said to them, In
whatever place you enter a house, stay there till you depart from that
place. And whoever will not receive you nor hear you, when you depart
from there shake off the dust under your feet as a testimony against
them. Assuredly I say to you, it will be more tolerable for Sodom and
Gomorrah in the day of judgment than for that city! So they went out
and preached that people should repent. And they cast out many demons
and anointed with oil many who were sick and healed them."
Again, in Luke 10:1, He sent out seventy disciples giving them the
same instructions,
"After these things the Lord appointed seventy others also, and sent
them two by two before His face into every city and place where He
Himself was about to go. Then he said to them, the harvest truly is
great, but the laborers are few; therefore pray the Lord of the harvest
to send out laborers into His harvest.”
These disciples returned with reports of great victories of
healing and deliverance.
Throughout the remainder of the New Testament there are accounts
of several husband and wife teams who were very effective in preaching
the gospel and bringing the power of God into the lives of other people.
Their usefulness for the Lord's work was enhanced because of the
agreement between them and, the ability of one partner to lift up the
other's faith during times of discouragement.
PURITY
I Cor 6:12-20 describes the importance of purity in the marital
relationship. “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not
helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under
the power of any. Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but
God will destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for sexual
immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. God both
raised up the Lord and will also raise us up by His power. Do you not
know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the
members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or
do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her?
For the two, He says, shall become one flesh But he who is joined to
the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that
a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality
sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the
temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you
are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God
in your body and in your spirit which are God's.”
Paul emphasizes the church's marital relationship with the Lord
Jesus Christ in 2 Cor
11:2, “For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have
betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste
virgin. But I fear, lest somehow as the serpent deceived Eve by his
craftiness, so your minds may be corrupted from the simplicity that is
in Christ. For if he who comes preaches another Jeusus whom we have not
preached, or if you receive a different spirit which you have not
received, or a different gospel which you have not accepted - you may
well put up with it.”
Paul here speaks as presenting us as a chaste virgin to Christ in
that he desires us to be pure in heart, not tainted with sin or the
corruption of the world. We are to model our lives strictly by the
morality and concepts of Godly love found in the Holy Bible.
BRIDE OF CHRIST
The most magnificant aspect of the concept of marriage, however, is
the soon to come marriage of the Bride of Christ with the groom which
will occur in Heaven after the rapture, or catching up, of the
dedicated, spirit-filled believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. Those
Christians who meet that requirement but who already have died will
first be resurrected from the dead, even as Jesus Christ was resurrected
from the dead and given a new, glorified body that will never die. So
shall it be with the dead in Christ. The living believers who are to be
part of the bridal company will be given translated bodies and be caught
up to be forever with Jesus Christ in His Kingdom. For 1000 years a
renewed Eden-like status on earth will exist in the millennial reign of
Christ in which the believers in Christ will reign and govern with Him
from the city of Jerusalem.
NEW JERUSALEM
Afterward the “New Jerusalem” or city of God will descend and
Christ shall rule the universe from there, according to Revelation
21:1-5, “ And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven
and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea. And I
John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of
heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a
great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with
men, and he will dwell with them, and they sahll be his people, and God
himself shall be with them, and be their God. And god shall wipe away
all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, and neither
sorrow, or crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former
things are passed away. And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I
make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are
true and faithful.”
We can believe that God is faithful and true, and we look forward
to the marvelous plans He has in store for us as His children, the
church of the living God.
Most important of all is that are sins are covered with the blood
of Jesus Christ who gave Himself in the grestest expression of love
before God the Father, spotless and sinless in His sight. Jesus is our
great example, and even as He presented Himself as the lamb of God for
our sakes, even so are we to present ourselves as living sacrifices
before God, embued wtth the power of the Holy Spirit who dwells within
us as reborn believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. The pertect love of
God exhibited in the life of Jesus Christ should be seen in us as we
fulfill the mandate given to us as befievers, to love the Lord our God.
If you have never had the life-changing experience of
receiving the Lord Jesus Christ as your savior there will never be a
better time than now to know that your soul is secure in the love of
God; your sins forgiven, covered with the sacrificial blood of Jesus who
died in your place that you might be redeemed, perfect in the sight of
God and worthy of the glories of Heaven which await those who have
accepted Jesus' act of love and mercy in giving Himself for us. To know
that your sins are forgiven, please repeat,
“God I believe that Jesus is your only son who came to earth to be the
lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. I confess that I have
sinned. I have fallen short of the perfect life that you expect of me.
I repent of my sins. I accept the sacrifice of Jesus Christ who died for
me in my place. This makes me your child, my sins forgiven. Thank you
for forgiving me of all of my sins, Lord Jesus. I now make you the Lord
of my life, now and forevermore.
If you meant that prayer God accepts you as His own dear child,
forgiven of all of your sins and reborn
into the family of God, forever secure in God's love and grace.